May 18th, 2002


geeking out on LJ, to good ends?

Kate's been stalking my LJ for a while now, to various ends. This past week she proposed an idea to me, and I thought it was a really great one, so today was the day the idea got implemented.

We've always been about connections and communication, my wife and I. This upcoming year apart while she's on internship is making it really clear that we're going to have to work extra hard to maintain our unique connection, and to keep communication at the level that's gotten us to this amazing relationship we have. We've gotten advice about this from other couples that have made long separations work: talk on the phone every day, visit at least monthly, get webcams, keep in casual touch a lot of the time using IM, etc. A lot of this we'll do.

But a part of the blessing Susan read at our wedding ceremony was "May this marriage have a fair face and a good name, an omen as welcome as the moon in a clear blue sky." So it seems like the story of this separation, and our experience of it, and our hopes and fears, should in part be recorded, and public.

Kate's suggestion was that Livejournal would be a good place to do that.

I like the idea. It's easily implementable via a closed community (which I had to figure out how to do, but it wasn't too hard). I have some close friends that read and comment on my LJ entries already, and hopefully they'll continue to offer friendly advice in the shared journal as well. The story of my life as displayed in LJ is a little skewed towards my LJ friends, Becca in particular, and pushes Kate and my relationship with her into the background a bit, since Kate had not been on here to participate and be seen herself.

So I guess we aim to try to turn all of this to our advantage. I expect we'd appreciate everyone's help, too, in this experiment. The shared journal is oakandcypress. There's nothing there yet, but we'll start posting to it soon. Oops, I see Kate has just kicked it off.

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